Happily Single

Recently I read an article on msn called “scared to commit or happily single?” after reading I took stock of my life in the last little bit and for the first time in 5 years I’m happy with who I am and where I am in my life. now don’t get me wrong the 3 and ½ years with THE EX were alright and I had happy moments and me and K had our good times but as of late I’m really quite content with who and where I am. It’s a really great feeling especially after hitting some really low points this past spring.


I think part of why I feel this way is cause after almost 2 years after the break-up heard round the world (well not quite but it was pretty earth shattering to me) I have forgiven him and (even though I hate to admit it) her. I’m not angry anymore, I’m not sad; I’m not anything about it. Now while it’s been a long tough road back to this good/happy place, I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Yes it sucked, it sucked big time but I’m grateful for who it’s made me cause lets face it if it wasn’t right then it wouldn’t be right now. I can honestly say that I want him to be happy. Don’t get me wrong I still feel I have every right to turn and walk away if I see him in the mall or something but I don’t hold any ill will against the situation.

My friends keep pushing me to be with someone but I don’t want to. I mean just last weekend we all went out (significant others in tow) and they all fought with their men all night so I said really? This is what you are pushing for me to have? The stress? The drama? NO THANK YOU! I went home that night feeling good (not just because of the fact that I tried to drink the bar), I felt good emotionally. I’ve also taken it upon myself this year to get rid of the negativity in my life, whether it is people or situations and if this means I loose certain people out of my life then so be it, life is to short! I’m also starting to believe that if I can’t do anything to fix a situation then it is best to let it go and let it take the course that it needs to take.

“you are where you are cause that’s where you need to be”